We have all heard it once you get married, sex is little and far between. So have you thought about the reason behind this. It is quite simple, when you get married you are likely to have children. When you have children you have less time for just you and your spouse. You also have more on your plate so you are likely to be too tired to put on that sexy lingerie all the time like you used to. So what do you do now that your 2.5 kids are taking all your time. First a date night should be established early on. Ideally before marriage and children. My suggestion is at least twice a month there should be a time when you and your partner have at least 3 solid hours together. If you can do more than this, wonderful. This date should be established on the calendar with at least 2 babysitters lined up for each date night. This may seem trivial but it is absolutely necessary. I also suggest planning around your lady friend (period) when planning also. But this is not all. You should also schedule twice a year at least where you stay overnight with each other outside the home. Again if this can be accomplished more, great. So why the overnight stay away from the home. Sometimes being away from the home can feel as though you are on a mini vacation. Rent a hotel room, doesn’t have to be anything amazing. Just a bed, no kids, no toys, no one waking you up. This gives both parties something to look forward when the days seem long, from work, raising a family, dealing with finances etc. We all need a time to breathe, relax, and remind ourselves that we are not only a parent but also a lover.